Fast writes that sitting with the legs crossed and a shoe dangling from one foot is flirtatious for women. "Sitting with your legs crossed, looking like a lady" is how Lodmer put it. Gestures. In a study, citing by Fast, on courtship behavior, A.E. Scheflin calls it "preening behavior," which includes, for women, stroking of the hair and checking of make-up, and for men, readjusting of clothes or smoothing out creases in pants. In his book, Fast writes, "The most obvious gesture for a woman is the lifted hand that pushes back the hair from the face or rearranges it above the ears. It's a flirtatious gesture, and it spells femininity." Often, certain gestures are much simpler and more obvious.